All at Sea

Decca Aitkenhead

On a hot still morning on a beautiful beach in Jamaica, Decca Aitkenhead’s life changed for ever.

Her four-year-old boy was paddling peacefully at the water’s edge when a wave pulled him out to sea. Her partner, Tony, swam out and saved their son’s life – then drowned before her eyes.

When Decca and Tony first met a decade earlier, they became the most improbable couple in London. She was an award-winning Guardian journalist, famous for interviewing leading politicians. He was a dreadlocked criminal with a history of drug-dealing and violence. No one thought the romance would last, but it did. Until the tide swept Tony away, plunging Decca into the dark chasm of random tragedy.

Exploring race and redemption, privilege and prejudice, ALL AT SEA is a remarkable story of love and loss, of how one couple changed each other’s lives and of what a sudden death can do to the people who survive.

Reviews of All at Sea

  • ‘If I read a sadder, truer, wiser chapter in a book this year I will count myself fortunate … Aitkenhead’s loss was our gain’ The Times

    ‘An exemplary memoir … However magnificent and powerful the book, you know it pales in comparison with the loss’ Sunday Times

    ‘This book is impossible to forget … It reminds one that grief is about transformation, the loss of old moorings, a new permission to put the heart first- a sea change’ Observer

    ‘Astonishing…. Aitkenhead has produced a work of art’ Evening Standard

    ‘An extraordinary memoir, a beautifully written account of life, love and what is left of both after tragedy …Utterly heart-breaking but it’s also a brave and honest account of grief and its aftermath that will stay with you long after you finish the last page’ Daily Express

    ‘Finely observed, emotionally truthful and beautifully written, her memoir is testament to the extraordinary power of love that doesn’t vanish when life of the beloved ends, but endures as long as memory itself’ Mail on Sunday

    ‘A story of absolute heartbreak, but also a story of unbelievable courage’ Davina McCall

    ‘An entrancing love story; a horrifying death story; a book about class, family, growing up, taking risks and learning how to be strong. Read it once, and it will be inside your head forever’ Andrew Marr

    ‘If you buy just one book this year, make it this one. I have never read anything like it and wished it would never end’ Jennifer Saunders

    ‘A brave book about emotional truth. It brought a tear to my eye, and will be deeply empowering for those who read it’ Tanya Byron

    ‘Anyone who has loved, lost or grieved – that’s all of us – should read it.’ Alastair Campbell

    ‘A beautiful and painful guidebook through the taboo subject of death. Decca made me miss someone I’ve never met and, for today at least, savour those I love’ Russell Brand

    ‘A remarkable story of sudden tragedy and grief, of love and resilience’ Arianna Huffington

    ‘Beautiful’ Sunday Times

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